Impression after watching “Family, Home” “家，家”

 

                                 

Through filming, director Rachel helped her own family unravel their hearts and understand that they love each other very much. It also reflects that parents are the best teachers for their children and their behavior often affects their children's growth.

Here are some notes I took when I watch the film:

This movie presents the story through interviews. For Rachel her family of origin was very unhappy and did not speak to each other. Not only that, but her father's family had patriarchal customs, which added to the fact that Rachel was not taken seriously at her grandmother's house. Her mother didn't talk to her father at home either, and it was because of this family relationship that Rachel developed a withdrawn personality. But this is not the case. Through the interview, Rui Xue learned of his father's hardships. In the interview, the father keeps apologizing for his family's patriarchal thinking, and also tells Rui Xue that he wants to earn more money for Rui Xue while he can still work, so that her life will become better in the future. His daughter is his lifelong attachment. Here is where I think it is crucial. When we don't know the truth, we tend to rely on our own subjective consciousness to evaluate a person, which can create a lot of misunderstandings. That's why communication is the key to getting the truth.

In the end Rachel's mother's diary also unlocked the father's heart. The father thinks that the mother doesn't love him, but from the content of the diary, every word expresses the mother's love for the father. Rachel’s mother didn't want her father to go to social functions every night and drink a lot of alcohol. Although she seldom communicated with father, she was always worried about his health. Even though they were separated and divorced, that attachment was never lost. At the end of the movie, Rachel's father sheds tears. He felt that he had not really understood the family, that he had been less patient with his wife, and that he had not been a good role model for Rachel as she grew up, and had not taken the time to be there for her.

This movie is a redemption for Rachel and a psychological therapy for her family. By communicating and making each other realize that they love each other much more than they thought. Rachel understands her father's pain and his love for her. At the same time the father understood the love of the mother. So all communication in the world is the best way to understand and be there for each other.

通过拍摄，导演芮雪帮助自己的家庭解开了心结，让他们明白了彼此都很爱对方。这也反映出父母是孩子最好的老师，他们的行为往往会影响到孩子的成长。

这个片子通过采访来呈现故事。对芮雪来说她的原生家庭很不幸福，彼此之间都不说话。不仅如此，父亲的家里还有重男轻女的陋习，这更导致了芮雪在奶奶家不被重视。母亲在家里也不和父亲说话，正是因为这样的家庭关系，导致芮雪产生了孤僻的性格。但事实并不是如此。通过采访，芮雪知道了父亲的苦衷。在采访里，父亲一直对他家庭重男轻女的思想表示道歉，也告诉芮雪想在自己还能工作的时候多给芮雪赚一些钱，让她以后的生活变得更好。女儿是他一辈子的牵挂。这里我认为很关键。在我们不知道真相的时候，往往就会靠着自己的主观意识去评价一个人，这就会产生很多误会。所以沟通才是得到真相的关键。

最后芮雪母亲的日记本也解开了父亲的心结。父亲认为母亲不爱自己，但从日记本的内容，每一句话都在表达母亲对父亲的爱。母亲心疼父亲每晚都要去应酬，都要喝很多酒。虽然母亲很少和父亲沟通，但一直都在担心着父亲的身体。就算他们分居了，离婚了，但那份牵挂

从来都没有丢失过。在影片的最后，父亲流泪了。他认为自己没有真正去理解这个家，对自己的妻子少了份耐心，也没有在芮雪成长中起到一个好的榜样，没有花时间去很好的陪伴她。

这个影片对芮雪来说是一次救赎，更是她家庭的一次心理理疗。通过沟通，让对方明白他们对彼此的爱要比想象中的多得多。芮雪理解了父亲的苦衷，明白了父亲对她的爱。同时父亲也明白了母亲的爱。所以世界上一切的沟通都是彼此最好的理解和陪伴。